LINDSEY S:

You may want to find out what type of herpes she has and how she was diagnosed. If all the doctor did was take a look then they could be wrong and she should go back and actually get tested for herpes. Also herpes isn’t hereditary, it’s not passed from parent to child. If it’s genital herpes then that type is rarely passed out side of having oral sex or intercourse. If it’s oral herpes (the type that causes cold sores on the mouth) then she could have had that type of herpes since she was a child. It’s often passed by being innocently kissed by some one that has a cold sore.
If you don’t have herpes then she isn’t going to get it from you. If it’s genital herpes then she could have contracted it from a previous partner, some times herpes can lie dormant for long periods of time after you contract it.
You may want to have a test now then another one after 3-6 months, get tested regularly so you know your own status. Herpes can take a few months to show up in blood work. But if you haven’t had a break out by now chances are you probably don’t have it. Most people have an initial break out with in 1-3 weeks of being exposed to herpes.
Herpes isn’t always passed on and there are some things she can do to help prevent it from being passed. She should abstain from having oral sex and intercourse when she has any signs of a break out, wait until it’s healed before you start having sex again. She can also start taking suppressive therapy or antiviral medication regularly. These can help suppress her break outs and make her less likely to pass herpes in between break outs. You can even use condoms in between break outs if that will make you feel more comfortable.